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The reason for my delay.

It’s been over a week since my last post, and it’s not because I’ve forgotten about you.  It’s because I’ve been working day and night behind the scenes, including a few all nighters, to wrap up all the details of something BIG that is hitting the blog TOMORROW!

It’s something very close to my heart….

It’s something I’ve been working 3 years on, and something I’m still mostly in shock that it’s actually DONE.

It’s something I’ve created for you because I know deep down, you really need it.

It’s something I’m scared to death to put out there, but you inspire me to keep moving forward.

And while the launch hitting the blog tomorrow, it’s something our newsletter family will find out about FIRST.  Get on the list to be the first to know!

Until tomorrow…..

scarlettMarch 1, 2012 - 7:59 pm

@Wes, so awesome for God’s perfect timing!

Wes RobertsMarch 1, 2012 - 7:49 pm

Scarlett, that is so awesome! For the past year and especially this week that is exactly what I have been fighting to see that God wants me to prosper in this business. I have fought complained and praised God all the while trying to see why He led me down this path and past all the struggles. Thank you!

KellieMarch 1, 2012 - 9:42 am

I have an idea about what might be happening, I hope I’m right!

Urban WifeFebruary 29, 2012 - 2:11 pm

So excited!

DerekFebruary 29, 2012 - 1:30 pm

Woohoo! Can’t wait.

The box of letters.

I never knew it existed.

I was too young to even remember they were even sent.

It added to the list of things now 3 years later I continue to learn about my late father who passed away too quickly after his short battle with lung cancer. Today marks exactly 3 years, yet still feels like yesterday was the day I watched him take his last breath.

But my mom surprised me, and introduced me to this new thing about him I didn’t know she had tucked away.

A few weeks ago, my mom surprised me and stole me away for an afternoon in my sweatpants and without make up or hair done.  She told me we were going to his gravesite, but I never expected what she would pull out of the back of his truck.  She still drives his truck from time to time.  I secretly hope she never sells it because somedays I can still smell his scent from the passenger side.

She pulled the truck around so that the tail end was facing his grave.  She told me to have a seat on the tailend while she got something out of the truck.

She reappared with… a box.  On the outside, it was golf shoes.

“Did you keep daddy’s golf shoes or something?” I questioned.

“No,” she laughed, “Something better.”

She opened the box and tears immediately fell from my eyes.

It was a box of love letters.  From my dad.  To her.  And to me.

I couldn’t stop crying.  How could I not know these letters existed?

There was a time my dad had to go away for work and be away from us for weeks and months at a time, and during this time, he wrote us letters.  As she began to read her first one, I cried happy tears because of how cute my dad was in expressing how much he loved my mom.  It was mostly simple things like sneaking in “I love you” in the inside of the envelope, or “XXX Kisses” at the end of the note.  Despite all the hard times I saw them go through as I grew up as a witness of their marriage, I always knew deep down how deep their love was for each other.  And seeing my dad’s love notes all over his note, it was another reminder that the love built in a marriage, through both good and bad times, IS worth sticking it out “until death do us part.”

Then in the next envelope, there was a letter to me.  Seeing my dad’s handwriting writing my name made me cry even more.  Then I opened the letter, and all I saw was the first line that then really made me lose it.

“Dear Scarlett,

My favorite girl.

I miss you and love you.”

As I sat there in front of his gravesite, I couldn’t help but think, if he only knew how much I would need to hear that right now at this point in life.  Though I’m not 7 years old anymore when I first received those words from him in 1988, even now at 31, the little girl inside of me needed to hear that her daddy missed her.  Because, gosh….. words can’t express how much I miss him still everyday.

The tears eventually turned to laughs as my mom and I continued to go through the box and remember all my dad’s funny ways of saying things, and cute expressions of affection.  Even back then, my dad was always reminding my mom to check the oil in the car the same way he used to do that as I would drive off to college.  He was always so protective of his girls in all the small and big ways.

As we combed through more and more letters, I realized how I hate that the beauty of handwritten letters has been so lost in our digital generation of texting and email.  It made me want to immediately go home and print out all of Stephen and I’s emails we exchanged when we were getting to know each other.  Sure, they weren’t handwritten, but it was the beginning of our love story.  And I never want to lose that if a harddrive were to crash.  I want to have a box tucked away to share with our children one day and show them how much mommy and daddy loved each other.  I want to have a box for myself to remember in our old age, or when times feel unbearable as I know every marriage goes through.

I have learned through my parents marriage that love is worth fighting for.  I have learned love is worth taking the time to give handwritten love notes. I have learned that it’s the hard times when you really see the depth and beauty of the foundation of your love.  I have learned love can surprise you when you least expect it to.  And I have learned it’s never too late to say I love you.

 

In lighter news, TODAY is also Stephen’s birthday!!  I love how God turned it into a day of celebration with how He orchestrated my husband’s birthday on the day I lost the first man I ever loved.  Be sure to give him lots of birthday wishes in the comments below!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY LOVE!!!

Stephen, for all the ways you make me laugh every day, and your tenderness with my heart, I have loved every minute of sharing our lives together.  I know with your back injury we can’t go out and do much to celebrate, but even just sharing simple moments with you around the house have grown to become some of my favorite memories.  You are loved, and my life has been so blessed because you were born!

 

megsFebruary 29, 2012 - 5:21 pm

I love this so much! How amazing it is to hold letters that once was written and held by the ones you love and miss. We also have letters like this that we treasure more than anything we own because they are bits of paper that hold words of love.

:)
Megs

Jennifer ClendeninFebruary 24, 2012 - 10:04 pm

Scarlett I love reading your blog and seeing how much those letters mean to you and your mother. My husband and I have many handwritten love letters since his job takes him away for months. We also, like you and your hubby, have many email letters when we were getting to know each other. I have them printed out in order and in a photo album. I’ve often thought of how nice it will be for our children to read those in the future and seeing how much your parents letters mean to you confirms that. Thanks for sharing! (and Happy Birthday to your hubby!)

Autumn LeeFebruary 24, 2012 - 11:27 am

This is beautiful and totally made me bawl like a baby. Having lost my mom 3 years ago, I know the feeling of even just seeing her handwriting with my name in it! I try to write handwritten letters and cards as much as I can, because it has become a lost art and it holds more value in years to come than a cute little email being sent over!! ((hugs))

scarlettFebruary 24, 2012 - 10:34 am

@Joe- thanks Joe!

joeFebruary 24, 2012 - 4:58 am

what a beautiful post Scarlett! so well written, and very touching! Tell Stephen Happy birthday for me too!!

Urban WifeFebruary 21, 2012 - 8:13 pm

What a touching post…I’ve been moved to tears. Happy Birthday to Stephen!

scarlettFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:50 pm

@Charlotte- Stephen loved waking up to see your note! Thanks!

scarlettFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:50 pm

@Laura & @Danielle- Sorry to make you cry!

scarlettFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:49 pm

@Annie- You should totally start a box!

annieFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:29 pm

Scarlett! This is amazing! How special for you and Ms. Rene to have those letters from your dad. Lance leaves me lots of notes and now I just want to go put them all in a box together! They are scattered all over the house, but I”m going to make it my goal to put them all together! Because this is something that we’ll always have! Handwritten is so wonderful!!!!

love ya!

AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY STEPHEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mike HallFebruary 21, 2012 - 1:50 pm

Beautiful… thanks for sharing that.

Laura GravelleFebruary 21, 2012 - 1:32 pm

I had tears rolling down my face as I read this. Thank you for sharing such a personal story with all of us.

Charlotte ShimojimaFebruary 21, 2012 - 11:35 am

Stephen,

God has given you a wonderful artistic gift of photography. It is truly inspiring to see your work. I know there are a lot of great things in store for you and the world is truly a richer place because you’re in it. God Bless you on this very special day….the day of your birth.

Charlotte

danielle smithFebruary 21, 2012 - 10:01 am

Im crying! Thanks for posting!

Defining who we are.

I got this sweet message the other day on Facebook from a friend from high school.  I couldn’t help but laugh reading it.  In high school, she was a friend who we cheered together, were even movie “extras” together in a TV movie filmed at our HS, and were in a photography class together (this was before digital existed and we were learning all that old school darkroom stuff, ha!).  It’s funny to think back to that class and how at the time, if someone had told me, “When your 10 year reunion rolls around, you’re going to be a wedding photographer,” I would have totally not believed it.  While, yes, in high school, I liked photography, it was only one of the millions of creative things I liked, and it certainly didn’t define me.  At the time, my heart was set on becoming an architect.  And my plan was in 2 years, I would go to the University of Florida, major in architecture, go to grad school, become an architect designing luxury homes.  That was “my” plan, but apparently God had different plans.

The other part I laughed at when reading her comment was my label, “Scarlett the photographer.”

‘Is that what I’m defined as to people?’  I thought. Yes, I’m a photographer, but I’m also so much more.’

I mean, yes, from a branding perspective, it’s probably good that people define my husband and I as that, but there’s also so many other things I define myself as.  I define myself as a designer.  As a cupcake maker.  As a wife.  As a daughter.  As a mom to a furry child.  As a princess to a glorious Heavenly King.

Even recently, I had a talk with a girlfriend who also became a photographer recently, and ironically was in that same high school photography class, but after feeling like our lunches together were becoming mostly work related, I had to have a heart-to-heart with her to ask her, “Can we simply go back to being just girl friends, not photography friends?”  With the start of the new year, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about how, yes, I’m a photographer, but it’s not what defines me. Sometimes I just want to be known as Scarlett, not “Scarlett the photographer.”  Maybe that’s why I’m more inspired to share blog entries that are from the heart, rather than share photography tips.  There’s definitely a time and a place where I turn on “Scarlett the photographer” and Stephen and I are excited to share with you everything we know in our 2012 workshops, but here on the blog, I like to simply be…. Scarlett.  If we were sitting across the table from each other sharing a soup and salad at Panera Bread, I would care less about what kind of camera you use, or for those non-photographers, what you do for a living.  I would want to know what your dreams are, what your fears are, what inspires you, what makes you laugh, what your favorite TV show is, what music you listen to.  I would simply want to know about…. you.  And what makes you, you… Because to me, that’s so much more interesting than the name brand of gear you use, or the name brand on your jeans.

I know in social settings and meeting new people, the most obvious ice breaker is “So, what do you do?”  It’s both the starting place, and the easy way out…. But, instead, I want you to leave me a comment and NOT tell me what you do.. I want you to tell me who you ARE…. Tell me, what 5 words define you?  Then tell me, what is the story behind the most recent thing that made you laugh?  Lastly, tell me, what’s your all time bible verse and why does it move your heart so much?

I can’t wait to hear from you.

 

Urban WifeFebruary 21, 2012 - 8:32 pm

I am a Daughter of Christ, forever grateful to be redeemed!
I am a daughter to loving Christian parents.
I am a wife to a Godly man.
I am steadfast and loyal with family and friendships.
I am blessed with good health and don’t let my infertility define me.

My husband made me laugh while I was cooking dinner tonight – honestly, it was probably his laugh that made me laugh. He was watching Frasier. :)

My favorite Bible verse is Ephesians 5:1-2. “Be imitators of Christ, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” This verse has been my lifeline, from the lows in my life to the highs. It speaks to my heart because I am reminded that everything I do should be a mirror image of Christ.

ShelleyFebruary 21, 2012 - 6:00 pm

This is the first time I’ve commented too, but I love bragging on the Lord and the way that he defines me! And I love that you share your heart in such a beautiful, honest way even when you have no idea who you’re sharing it with. So here’s me sharing:

1. Beloved of Jesus (which makes all the rest possible) 2.Sister (I live in an amazing, deep community of believers) 3.Caller-out-of-beauty (Does it count as one word if it’s hyphenated? It’s what I get to do in photography and in loving people) 4. Warrior (I love fighting in prayer and training my body) 5. Goofball (self-explanatory)

Talking in ridiculous accents and making up stories with my sweet friends last night. I’m glad that we’ve given up our pride and exchanged it for silliness and humility.

Isaiah 61:1-3 goes straight to my heart every time I read it because Jesus has done all those things for me and now He gives me the privilege of coming alongside Him as he sets others free and gives them beauty for ashes. So good.

scarlettFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:51 pm

@Georgina- I’m SO GLAD you left a comment for the first time, what a great comment to be your first. Thank you for opening up and helping me to get to know you better. And YES, I totally understand the ways a dog makes you laugh.

scarlettFebruary 21, 2012 - 2:50 pm

@Allie- THANK YOU for opening up and sharing your heart. I love how boldly you put it out there that God is the source of your identity. Proverbs 3:5-6 is one of my all time favorite verses too!

ALLIEFebruary 20, 2012 - 11:25 pm

Okay, here goes. I am:

1. A follower of God. I don’t know what I would do without my connection to God. I feel so beyond blessed to be a receiver of His gifts and I try to be a window for which His light can shine through.

2. A girl who adores my family. My family means the world to me. I love them so much and I try to build my life around having a close connection with them. They are the ones that truly know ME and they can make me smile:)

3. Someone who loves to laugh. I try my best to see the beauty in all things and the humor in everything, even the situations where it feels the hardest.

4. A person who enjoys simple things. I always compare myself to “Elf” from the movie, because I get way too excited about little things (like skipping or dancing in public)!

5. I’m always striving to be a better, child of God, daughter, sister, friend, etc. and I’m learning about encouraging my self along the way:)

Um, the thing that made me laugh last? Probably my brother. He cracks me up! Or maybe a youtube video of a laughing baby. I can’t get enough of those:)

My all time bible verse: “Trust in God with all of your heart. Do not rely on your own understanding. Seek His will in all that you do and He will show you with path to take” -Proverbs 3:5,6
Although there are SO many verses that inspire me, that one really speaks to my heart. I find my self trying to figure things out on my own and forgetting to trust in Him and seek His will. The best thing is that I see this verse everywhere and people have been emailing me with this verse, or telling me about it around town. I think that is truly His way of speaking to me. I love miracles:)

Thank you, Scarlett, for your inspiration to us. You are a beautiful window for which God shines His light through! God bless!

scarlettFebruary 20, 2012 - 6:25 pm

@Georgina- Seriously amazing. Thanks for being a follower of my words all these years, and for leaving your first comment! :-) I truly appreciate the card you sent my dad and the prayers that went along with it during that time. Tomorrow marks 3 years since he passed, how quickly that passed.

GeorginaFebruary 20, 2012 - 5:11 pm

Follower of Christ, wife, teacher (yes it’s what I do but also a huge part of who I am), friend, inspiring crafter.
The last time I really laughed was earlier today at the park. My husband and I took our great Dane and lab to get some exercise. We let them run loose in the vacant baseball field. Our lab is definitely a retriever so we were throwing the ball for her. Our Dane just wants to be center of attention and rather than run she prances, like a deer. It was just humorous watching them run their hearts out. Our great Dane left divots all in the field from running so hard. Once they finished running they ran to the edge of the fence and started to eat snow. This was the first time they had seen snow together. Written out it doesn’t seem as funny, but I know Rhett provides plenty of entertainment.

My favorite scripture is Colossians 3:12-17. This was the passage my husband and I chose to have read at our wedding and try to uphold it in our marriage daily.

This is the first time I’ve ever commented but I have followed your blog ever since I stumbled upon it while in college. I prayed with you and your family through everything wih your parents, even sent cards to you dad. I cried during your first dance. You are such an amazing roll model to so many. I pray blessings upon you and Stephen and I know the Lord is going to do great things in your marriage.
God Bless, Georgina

Scarlett & Stephen Workshops

We are bringing you awesome news today on the blog that our newsletter family already had a 24-hour jump start on and are already reserving their seats!

***If you are a photographer in Australia, this is big news for you too, as well as our American family!

Scroll down for a special announcement from AIPP!***

In recent months, we have been invited to host workshops in several cities, both domestically AND internationally in Australia where we will be shooting a fabulous wedding in May!

We know there’s a lot of workshops available to you as a photographer, and we’re passionate about helping photographers know how to run a profitable business.

We heard recently the scary statistic that 72% of new photographers businesses will fail within the next 24 months.  We want to help you NOT be part of that shocking percentage!

In getting married last year, we took the best from both of our individual photography businesses to now rebrand and rebuild from the ground up a new business model that works even better than before.

We’ve taken a year to develop a new curriculum for the best workshop we could bring you to help you strategically grow your profits, grow your client experience, conquer fears to try new and better things you SHOULD be doing, how to build a strong brand, and overall become a better photographer who can read and manipulate light in any situation.

Our workshops are meant for the photographer who…

  • Is looking to build a business with a strong foundation
  • Design a personalized Maketing & Sales Strategy for your brand
  • Wants to take things to the next level to become a better shooter
  • Needs to learn how to make more money per wedding and portrait session
  • Wants to understand who you are with your own unique voice to distinguish yourselves from the rest of the competition

We’re extremely excited to partner with companies who have helped lead our business to success.  Our partners are bringing over $1500 in giveaways to each city.  These companies don’t “sponsor” us, they are simply companies we use and love in our own studio.

Are you ready to make your 2012 rock?

Find a city near you below, and click the link for more info and to reserve YOUR spot!

Also, through photography groups in each city, we’ve been having private pre-sales already, and spots are already being reserved!  Our newsletter family got a 24-hour jumpstart on registrations, as well as a special discount code only available to those signed up on our newsletter.  If you aren’t on the list, be sure to sign up here for future exclusive goodies!

CLICK A CITY BELOW TO REGISTER NOW!

{AUSTRALIA}

Adelaide // May 2, 2012

Sydney  // May 8, 2012

{USA}

Myrtle Beach, SC // June 5, 2012

Dallas, TX // June 13, 2012

While these cities are currently where we have been invited to bring the S&S Workshop, we are open to hearing from you in YOUR city if you would like to help host us to a group of 10 photographers or more in the future.  Email us directly at stephen@scarlettlovesstephen.com to chat about possibilities.  We can’t wait to connect with all of you!  :-)

And for those in Australia, we’re excited to share that we were given the endorsement of AIPP!  We can’t wait to visit your beautiful country in May and meet all of you!

WIN AWESOME STUFF FROM OUR PARTNERS!

              
        
 

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Dixie DobbinsJune 3, 2012 - 2:08 pm

so excited about you guys coming to Dallas! I cant wait. No one does weddings the way you guys do and I think its awesome that you guys are sharing your expertise with us! Cant wait!!!

Agi MagyarApril 30, 2012 - 4:02 am

Signed up for the Sydney workshop FINALLY!!!! Can’t wait to meet you guys! next week!

Wedding Photography MelbourneApril 26, 2012 - 10:25 pm

Hey, you’re missing Melbourne! Ask the Sydney-siders, even they’ll tell you it’s the best city! Enjoy your visit to this beautiful country. Come and see Melbourne next time!

Kellene MaynardMarch 6, 2012 - 3:37 pm

I hope to join you guys in Dallas!!! YAHOO!

scarlettFebruary 17, 2012 - 1:32 pm

@Maria- Awesome! Hope to see you there!!

mariaFebruary 17, 2012 - 12:44 pm

So excited for this news, will hopefully be joining you in north carolina!!

Defining what normal is.

 

As much as I love working from home, I admit, some days I just look for an excuse to actually leave the house because I simply want a chance to dress up.  Recently I had to pick up some friends from the airport, and with a bit of brisk in the air, I put on my new fur vest and sparkly earrings.  But it was a bad hair day, so I just through my hair up in a bun to cover up the fact that it was in need of a hair wash… bad.

Before heading out the door, I took a self-portrait on my iPhone and Instagramed it saying “It’s so nice to feel back to normal after my accident.  Praise God!”

I didn’t come back to my desk to read email until the next morning to where I got a big laugh out of a comment left by a college friend, Afton, on my Facebook on the picture:

“I love that normal for you is fur and chandelier earrings.”

I couldn’t help but laugh, but then think, “Yeah, I guess it is now, but it wasn’t always.”

Then I thought about how the only reason I bought a fur vest was because I saw it on my dear friend, the fabulous make up artist Paulina Perez.  When she walked in to do my make up for our promo video above, I just love love loved her fur vest.  For a second I thought, “Gosh, I don’t know if I have the guts to wear something like that.  But if she can rock it, why can’t I?”

Shortly after, I bought my fur vest, what once felt like “Oh gosh, I don’t know if I can wear something this bold,” soon became my “normal.”

It reminds me of a line from one of my favorite quotes by Marianne Williamson:

“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

What is normal to you, might be abnormal to someone else. But as a child of God, we are not called to blend in. We are called to be bold, stare fear in the face and courageously set our own paths.  And with each new step toward what once felt impossible, it eventually becomes our new normal. Whether it’s a piece of fashion you want to rock but fear people might think you’re crazy, or a business idea you want to implement that you are too afraid to risk for fear of failure, we all face something that makes us question our confidence and courage to really really make a change in our everyday routine.  Half the time though, it just takes making the first step toward what feels abnormal, and understanding that stepping outside our comfort zone will always be accessorized with fear and doubt… temporarily.  But as you continue to take one more step, and one more step, pretty soon, what once felt “Oh my gosh, I could never…” turns into “Oh my gosh, how did I ever live without!”

Because really, being uniquely you is the new normal.  And you never know, you just might inspire someone else to let their own light shine too.

p.s.  If you are a PHOTOGRAPHER>>> Awesome news coming to the blog TOMORROW you won’t want to miss.  OR you can find out what the news is TODAY by signing up for our private newsletter we are sending out at 12pm EST!  :-)

 

Urban WifeFebruary 24, 2012 - 4:25 pm

For me, it can be so tough being bold. Thank you for the inspiration!

scarlettFebruary 17, 2012 - 1:36 pm

@Allie- Awwwwww, thank YOU!! Your sweet words made my day! :-)

ALLIEFebruary 17, 2012 - 12:04 pm

Scarlett– thanks for the weekly inspiration! You and Steven are truly a Godly couple and I love that you post things like quotes by Marianne Williamson (one of my favorite authors). Thanks for sharing YOUR light with us:)

scarlettFebruary 16, 2012 - 6:32 pm

@Jimmia- Thanks girl! It’s called Mercy Triumphs. It’s a bible study we are doing through church which has video messages from her each week to go along with the book too!

JimmiaFebruary 16, 2012 - 6:31 pm

Scarlett, what an inspirational entry! I really needed to read that. :) By the way, what is the name of the book you’re currently reading by Beth Moore? The passages you post are awesome.

scarlettFebruary 16, 2012 - 4:45 pm

@Brooke- We all gotta have some fabulous accessories!

BrookeFebruary 16, 2012 - 4:41 pm

Wow Scarlett…. I love love love this. I’m a jeans and a t-shirt girl, with some fabulous accessories. I feel like they’re too loud sometimes though, even though I love them. You are so right

scarlettFebruary 16, 2012 - 11:48 am

@Bethany- thanks so very much!! It takes one to know one! :-)

BethanyFebruary 16, 2012 - 11:39 am

I love your promo video! You guys are too stinking cute! I love your love story! And I love your shenanigans in the rain! LOVE it! You guys rock! Love you!!! Stay amazing!