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Life is a dance.

With Stephen’s back being out, I’ve been having to take on a lot more duties both in our business and around the house.  I realize how much I had adapted to now having a partner, having that someone to split tasks with, having that someone to help do life with.  He did dishes, I did laundry.  He took the trash out, I kept things organized.  But lately, as Stephen spends most of his days in bed rest, I’m starting to wonder how I ever handled it all on my own during my single years.  It’s funny how I used to worry how I would adapt to having someone in “my” space, to sharing a life with someone 24/7, to make room in my life for a man who would come with man smells and noises.  Now, as I do life back on my own while Stephen recovers, I realize I don’t want to do life on my own, I like having a partner to dance through life with.

And that’s just what we did.

It was Saturday night.  We were supposed to be out with friends, but had to cancel because Stephen’s back was still bothering him.  So instead, we stayed home and watched movies.  I was curled up in my fluffy pink robe, he was curled up under his fluffy blanket.  Each on our own couch, yet being in the same room was just as cozy.  I left the room to grab the laptop so we could watch a Netflix movie, but when I returned, instead, I played a song.  Our song.  Our First Dance song.  And I asked him for a dance.  Despite his pain, despite his comfort under the fluffy blanket, he rose to the occasion.  And just like that night when all our closest friends and family watched on, he grabbed me in his arms, this time with no one watching except our poodle Rhett.  We didn’t move much because of his back, but to simply be in his arms was all I needed in that moment to regain strength.  Then he got that smile on his face that I remember seeing on the dance floor during our First Dance, and he extended his arms to twirl me.  My pink robe doesn’t do much of a twirl, but seeing that smile on his face as I twirled, I knew he thought I was just as beautiful dressed down as when I was dressed up as a bride.

The past few weeks while I take on the world for both of us, I’ve been simply… exhausted.  But in the midst of my exhaustion, my friend emailed me a verse that really said exactly what I needed to hear: “Never tire of doing good.”  ~2 Thessalonians 3:13  It was so simple, yet so profound.  She was right, God was right.  This was my husband who God gave me, who I vowed to take care in sickness and health, who needed me now more than ever.  I have been tired, yes, but I needed to not grow tired of doing good for him.  Of being his helpmate the way God designed wives to be for their husbands.  As some country song says, “Life is a dance, you learn as you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow.”  And I know that’s exactly what marriage is, learning all the right steps together as you dance to the soundtrack of your lives becoming one together.  And we’re definitely both still learning. But as tricky as some dances can be in certain moments of life, as long as we never get too busy to slow dance, I have a feeling we’ll do just fine.

As our slow dance ended, Stephen headed back to the couch and joked, “Ok, now go write a blog entry about that.”  LOL, he knows me all too well, but I promise, that’s not why I asked him to dance.  Really.  I promise.

 

scarlettFebruary 2, 2012 - 12:17 pm

@Michael, any tips you can share from the 7 years you’ve been married? :-)

scarlettFebruary 2, 2012 - 12:17 pm

@Autumn, glad the quote could be good timing for you! :-)

Autumn LeeJanuary 31, 2012 - 11:00 pm

Love it! That is what I am asking my hubby for, for valentines day…just a dance! And i really like the quote…good timing.

Michael StephensJanuary 31, 2012 - 7:06 pm

I loved this story. How great is it to have a mate that God has so clearly placed in your life. I am thankful every day for my wife. It hasn’t always been easy but, with 7 years under our belts, it has been better than I could have ever dreamed.

Thanks for sharing.

scarlettJanuary 30, 2012 - 7:07 pm

I love you hubby!

Stephen KnuthJanuary 30, 2012 - 7:07 pm

I love you wifey!!! :)

scarlettJanuary 30, 2012 - 6:10 pm

@Melissa- Awww thanks, I’ll check it out!

Melissa E EarleJanuary 30, 2012 - 6:07 pm

What an amazing post for today Scarlett- it actually made mee think of a song I used to listen to when I was younger – see if you know this one from the oldies ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Azwhugld4sg

Falling into the new year.

We are in recovery now, but whew… Stephen and I know how to bring in the new year NOT on the right foot.

It started with New Year’s Day.  I still don’t remember the accident itself, but the story I’m told is that I fell flat on my face.  Stephen and I were in Seattle visiting his sister and her family.  We took our little nephews out to ride their scooters and lined up to have a race down a hill.  Stephen was on the back of one scooter, I was on the other.  We took off, who knows who was in the lead, then as we started going faster down the hill, my nephew got scared and decided to slam on the breaks.  With this, I went flying off the back and smashed face first into the pavement.  For the next 24 hours, all I remember is laying in bed, feeling my face, it hurting, going to the bathroom, seeing THIS in the mirror, and calling out to Stephen, “WHAT happened?  Why does my face look like this?”

Stephen told me he must have told me the story 50 times as often as the movie “50 First Dates“.  Apparently, according to the doctor, I had a mild concussion and hit the part of my head that affects short term memory.  In those 24 hours, I struggled to remember the past 2 weeks we spent in Seattle.  I looked through my Instagram and photos on Facebook to try to jog my memory, and all I could think was “I know I’m a photographer for my job, but I’m so glad I took these pictures to document my own life.”  Slowly with time, as I looked through the photos and listened to the stories Stephen told me of the things we did while in Seattle, the memories came back. I still don’t remember the accident itself, which the doctor said, I just might never, but it’s funny the things I DID remember in the midst of my medicated cloudiness.

What I do remember in my recovery is grabbing Stephen’s arm next me to me in bed and shouting my Social Security Number.  In my foggy brain, there was something comforting in knowing, if I could I remember my Social Security Number, my memory would eventually be ok.  The other thing I could remember to say in the midst of my fogginess was “I am healed by the stripes of Jesus!”  Probably because I’ve heard my mom say it a million times in the midst of her own health battles with cancer.  Though I couldn’t remember my life for that brief moment of time, I COULD remember how big God was, and it was these moments in life when He promises to always be with us and protect us.  I knew it in that moment of literally falling on my face in life that God would prove my faith was not for nothing.  And I sit here today with my memory recovered, and my lip back to normal size and scabs healed, I learned the reality of how God is my ultimate Healer, my Protector, my Heavenly Father who pulled me off the pavement and saved me that day, the same way my earthly father pulled me out of the waves I got tossed in when I was a little girl and rescued me from getting further hurt.

Then Stephen and I come back from Seattle, and a few days ago, as I sit in the office, I hear a huge crash in our bathroom.  I immediately ran across the house to discover my poor husband now flat on his face, his arm dripping in blood.  Getting into the shower, he slipped and fell and slammed his head and back and elbow on the hard tile floor.  For a frozen moment of time, I stood there frozen, not believing what I was seeing.  First I fall, now my husband too… in a matter of a month?  We were NOT off to a good start in this new year.  It only had to get better from there.

As I played nurse to Stephen, changing his bandages, dressing him, opening things, making food, feeding him pain meds, stroking his hair, massaging his back, I couldn’t help but think how, like the line in our video above we filmed a month before, we were definitely learning early on in marriage, “True love is not about waiting for storms to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

This was our rainy moment.

Yet, like Peter in the bible caught in the midst of the storm, we had a choice to doubt and let our faith sink, or we had a choice to keep our eyes on Jesus and keep walking toward Him.  We are choosing the latter. Despite these crazy falls, it’s the tough times when you learn what true love is all about.  You learn how deep your love for each other is.  You learn how, despite your fat lip that looks like it had too much Botox, that your husband still thinks you are the most beautiful girl in the world in his eyes.  You learn, that your vows are more than just words, but actions in the not so better times of “for worse.”

Speaking of vows, have you seen the trailer for this movie yet, “The Vow“?  It looks like another “The Notebook“ tear jerker.  But I have a feeling, I’m going to cry my eyes out for even more reasons now having had a glimpse of what Rachel McAdams goes through in this new movie.  Sooooo can’t wait to see this on Valentine’s Day!  I cry every time just watching the trailer.

 

scarlettJanuary 30, 2012 - 4:06 pm

@NYC- Wow, that’s so encouraging! Thanks for your encouragement as well. It’s nice to know our stories are helping others out there as well!

NycJanuary 28, 2012 - 3:59 pm

My goodness, glad to hear you toward well in the midst of chaos. I have wanted to comment for a while now. Your posts on your new marriage have been a bit of light at the end of the tunnel for me over the past several months.

My soon to be husband and I have had some mighty struggles restarting our lives from our own chaos. At times, the rain is hard and seems like it will never stop, but I know God brought us together and has a plan.

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your life here in your blog. It reminds me to smile and know God is in control.

scarlettJanuary 27, 2012 - 3:41 pm

Yeah I totally thought of you guys! What’s funny is that we totally were planning a sunny beach kind of theme to the video, then it decided to pour rain the only day we had the videographer in town, so we rolled with it. :-)

Chelsea PatriciaJanuary 27, 2012 - 3:39 pm

Love, LOVE the new video, gal! I totally teared up during it!

(Brock and I dance in the rain! :D )

darling paumenJanuary 26, 2012 - 1:36 pm

I am so happy you are better Scarlett. I followed your recovery and it was scary at first but your faith was always inspiring.
OMG – I’ve been eyeing this movie for weeks and only wish our clients realize how important memories are – God Bless you girl ~ never change!
p.s. I know for sure that I’ll be crying while watching this movie too.

Hugs,

Urban WifeJanuary 26, 2012 - 12:33 pm

Yikes what a rough start! Praise God for His healing, though. I’m excited to see ‘The Vow’ as well. Love a good tear jerker. :)

Emilia JaneJanuary 26, 2012 - 12:24 pm

Scarlett thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing this! I am absolutely in love with your new promo video, and I am so thrilled neither of your injuries were long lasting! :-) XXOO from Chicago

Our Blog 2.0

Apple does it every so often, more times than I’m ready for.  So I guess, that is our excuse for why we’ve updated our blog… again.  We consider it our “software update”, or a new year itch to change things up.  But really, a lot of it goes back to the fact that as much as I loved our old blog, there was something about where I always felt like I was standing in an Apple store when I really wanted to be a few stores down playing dress up in Betsey Johnson.  And I started to realize, if I was feeling that way, brides might be feeling that way too.  Even early on in the launch of our past blog, my mom said it upfront, “It’s cool, but it doesn’t feel very… bridal.” And over time, I started to feel like, and oh how I hate admitting this… she was right.

We really did love our old look.  It was part of our newlywed phase of learning to compromise as we began to merge our lives and businesses together.  To make it look hip and cool and modern like walking into an Apple store, because, well Stephen is obsessed with Apple stores.  I told him I could compromise if he let me keep my hot pink in our branding.  We tried it out, we even forked out a lot of money to get it custom designed.  We loved it, we really did.  But… but… I just simply missed my glam.  My girlyness.  My “hot pink in your face, so take that” that honestly worked for my branding in the past to attract brides who were also as obsessed with hot pink as I was.  (I mean, hello, one of my past clients had wallpaper in her home that looked almost exactly like the wallpaper background of this blog.  She even told me she hired me because of our mutual love of hot pink, ha!)

So as we approached the new year, we had our formal business meeting with the executives of our business (uh, me, him and our toy poodle, Rhett, of course).  And we decided, it was time for something new.  So we scouted a new way to take our blog back into our own hands with ProPhotoBlogs (and oh my gosh, how amazingly easy it was to create our blog with this!), and we flew in a fabulous cinematographer, Joel VanZ, from California, to create a promo video for us to fashion the top of new blog design.

Now here we are…. Blog 2.0.  Back to girly glam fabulous.  Back to my obsession with hot pink.  And thankfully I have a husband who doesn’t mind all my pinkness, afterall, it was because he was man enough to wear pink shirts that I fell for him in the first place.  (I knew when we went shopping for the first time and he agreed to try on a pink shirt for me, that he was “the one.”  ha!)  With our old blog, it was hard for me to get inspired to write, but now, with a chandelier hanging in the corner, how can I NOT be inspired?  One of my New Year’s resolution was to write more in 2012.  I did graduate with a journalism degree afterall, and I simply… miss…writing.  And I continue to get gracious emails from all of you saying you miss my words I wrote more often the 5 years I spent blogging before getting distracted with planning a wedding and getting married last year (which I’m still shocked anyone truly cared enough to notice how I have slowed down.) So you have permission, if I start slacking again, keep me accountable, ok?

Enjoy the new makeover and our new video above!

p.s.  If you are a photographer who follows this blog, we are in the midst of creating a special section just for you.  We have some cool new things coming in the new year which you’ll be able to access through the “For Photogs” button above.  We love connecting with you guys, and appreciate you, and well, you’re cool enough to get your own section.  :-)  Stay tuned for more soon….  Until then, our new blog host, ProPhotoBlogs, has graciously given us a discount code to give to you $10 off, simply because we love them, and we love you.  Enjoy!  DISCOUNT CODE: SKNU2326

scarlettJanuary 30, 2012 - 4:06 pm

@Erin- Oh wow, I didn’t think about that how others might not be able to access FB from work. I’m glad we got rid of that commenting system!

scarlettJanuary 30, 2012 - 4:05 pm

@Megan- Thanks so much!

Megan jonesJanuary 29, 2012 - 9:27 am

Loved the old blog but I also love that you’ve gone back to what you feel represents you best (I agree)!! The video is AMAZING! It’s awesome to see two people so in love that share the same passion! God Bless!

Erin JohnsonJanuary 27, 2012 - 9:17 am

LOOVE that I can comment again on fabulous things I love on here!!! From work, it wouldn’t allow me to comment as it was connected to Facebook and I check the blog all the time!!! YAY! Hope all is well for you both!

Erin

Shelley ColsonJanuary 26, 2012 - 9:17 am

Love your new blog and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the video!!!!

scarlettJanuary 25, 2012 - 8:14 pm

Thanks everyone!

@Megan- Yep, that’s our house. I love the couch too, had to get it shipped from LA because I couldn’t find anything like that here in Jacksonville. :-) And thanks for the encouragement about writing! It’s nice to feel inspired again with the new look to the blog! Thanks for reading and being here!

MeganJanuary 25, 2012 - 6:35 pm

Love this new look Scarlett! I love that promo video, is that your house? It’s BEAUTIFUL, I love the sofa! I’m glad to hear you are getting back to writing, I, like others, really loved your writing. :)

Jillian TreeJanuary 25, 2012 - 4:05 pm

Cute new look! and LOVE your new video, seriously so adorable <3

Kellie SmithJanuary 25, 2012 - 3:42 pm

One day Scarlett, regardless of the past, I will have you photograph me and my true love. Here’s to hope :)

scarlettJanuary 25, 2012 - 2:47 pm

@Brittney, duh, that would have been important to include. I just updated the blog. It’s $10 off! :-)

BrittneyJanuary 25, 2012 - 2:42 pm

Love it! What kind of discount is the promo code? I’ve been looking at prophotoblogs now for a few months!

Denver Wedding PhotographerJanuary 25, 2012 - 2:39 pm

Your new blog looks fabulous! I love the video intro!

scarlettJanuary 25, 2012 - 2:35 pm

@Urban Wife- Soooo glad you can comment now too. Yeah, we realized there ARE still people who don’t have Facebook, or rather not use Facebook to comment. Thanks for the feedback!

@Joel Vanz- Haha, mission accomplished, thanks for the GREAT job on the video! We highly recommend Joel for promo videos! Such a great guy to work with!

Patty LunaJanuary 25, 2012 - 2:34 pm

Great Job! So beautiful! =) Great Love Story.

Joel VanZJanuary 25, 2012 - 1:54 am

It already brought tears to someones eyes. Mission accomplished.

Urban WifeJanuary 24, 2012 - 10:47 pm

I love the new look and finally being able to comment even if I don’t have Facebook! That video just brought tears to my eyes. Be blessed. :)